Don’t let a new date press an old button!

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Don’t Let A New Date Push An Old Button

New person, new rules.

June 21, 2019

[/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]Maybe you’ve had the experience; you are sitting across from a date and things are going well. All of sudden, they say something and it triggers an old wound.

Why does your date’s question or comment send you down a rabbit hole of bad memories and create a visceral reaction? What can you do to prevent this from happening again and ruining another date?

1. Stop and breathe. Take a second to sit with that rush of yucky energy.

2. Ask yourself, “What interpretations and assumptions am I making about what is being said?”

3. Remind yourself you are on a date with someone new. “New person, new rules”,  which gives you the choice to create new responses.

4. Practice kindness, forgiveness and compassion with yourself and your date.

Find a mantra that resonates with you and save it on your phone, tape it to your mirror or put it wherever you will see it. Read it before every date/interaction.

One of my favorite quotes around this is:

“Don’t give your past the power to define your future” –Anonymous

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